BREAKING
OUT OF THE PRISONS OF YOUR PAST
The
greatest prison known to mankind is the prison of the mind. When your mind is
incarcerated your life is held captive to yesterday. A lot
of the subconscious motivation for women driving the beauty industry is that
they want to paint over the pain and issues they really struggle with
internally.
IMPACT POINT! Women INTERNALIZE Matters While
Men Generally INSULATE
Hebrews
12:15 (KJV). Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any
root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;
THE FALL OUT OF UNPROCESSED ISSUES:
1. When You Don't Get
Delivered From Your Past, You Subject The Innocent People Of Your Present To A
Life Sentence For Crimes They Didn't Commit
2.
You Remain Emotionally Unavailable For People To Love You Sincerely For Fear Of
Deception
3.
Your Countenance Displays Your Condition Which Distracts People Who Could Be A
Present Blessing
John
4:15-19 (KJV). The woman saith unto him,
Sir, give me this water, that I thirst not, neither come hither to draw. 16
Jesus saith unto her, Go, call thy husband, and come hither. 17 The woman
answered and said, I have no husband. Jesus said unto her, Thou hast well said,
I have no husband: 18 For thou hast had five husbands; and he whom thou now
hast is not thy husband: in that saidst thou truly. 19 The woman saith unto
him, Sir, I perceive that thou art a prophet.
There are three areas
this woman was emotionally, spiritually and even physically Imprisoned to,
RELATIONSHIPS-CHOICES-MISTAKES
IMPACT
POINT! The Only
Way To Get Out And Stay Out Of Prison Is To Understand Why You Went To Start
1. BREAKING
FREE FROM BAD RELATIONSHIPS
The
first prison we can recognize in this woman's mind was obviously in the area of
poor relationship choices. This lady had a string of bad relationships.
IMPACT POINT!
Broken
Relationships Leave The Woman Feeling Bitter And Asking "How could I Be So
Stupid?"
QUESTION? Why do men leave
easily and women tolerate?
Women usually enter
into relationships to fill a personal lack for something and become
codependent. Men strictly enter in for self-advantage or addition to. When
it doesn't add they eliminate.
What
Drives A Woman's Poor Relationship Choices?
A. Compensating For A Lack Of
Paternal Affirmation...She
struggles with self- esteem and builds her relationships according to her need
for the personal affirmation of a male.
B. Need For Maternal Expression...She develops relationships out of
her maternal nature and takes on men that she can take care of.
IMPACT POINT! As a consequence of developing
relationships from a position of "I need you to complete me" the
woman is more susceptible to developing soul ties.
DEFINITION: A soul tie is a
strong mental and spiritual attachment to a person that prevents you from
moving away from them. Even when you austencibly move on to another relationship
the next person is a carbon copy inflicting the same abuses.
IMPACT POINT! Soul Ties Primarily
Happen Through Sexually Erotic Experiences
1
Corinthians 6:15-16 (KJV). Know ye not that your bodies are the members of
Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of
an harlot? God forbid. 16 What? know ye not that he which is joined to an
harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.
Jesus
prophetically revealed to this woman that she had a string of illicit
relationships. In other words she kept attracting men that wouldn't
commit.
This woman
kept choosing the same kind of man which was simply a repetition of the
original man she had
never moved pass. Her "new relationships were all a repeat of the
original"
HOW DOES A SOUL TIE FUNCTION?
a. When A
Person Is Imprisoned By A Soul Tie They Will Reject What They Know Is Obviously
Better; Because, The Understanding Is Darkened
2 Timothy
3:6-7 (KJV) For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive
silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts, 7 Ever learning, and
never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.
IMPACT POINT! The Engine of A Soul Tie Is To
Create A Desire That Is Insatiable For The Person And Something They Do
When an ungodly man
has the occasion to experience a Godly woman sexually, he will push the limits;
because, the more perverted he can make the experience the deeper into her soul
he sinks. She will need deliverance to break free.
IMPACT POINT! The Soul Tie Is Emotional And
Spiritual. It Over-rides the Intelligence
Ephesians
4:17-18 (KJV) This I say therefore, and testify in the Lord, that ye henceforth
walk not as other Gentiles walk, in the vanity of their mind, 18 Having the
understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God through the
ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart:
This is
why the Word says that the marital bed is undefiled, Meaning, An Unmarried
Sexual Experience Is Defiled. When a person engages another sexually there are
spiritual doors opened.
IMPACT POINT! You May Know Better In Your Spirit
But The Head And Body Can't Break Free
A HEALTHY
RELATIONSHIP IS WHEN TWO PEOPLE HAVE COMMON VALUES AND ARE GROWING ON THE SAME
SCHEDULE
HOW TO BREAK A SOUL TIE
a.
Forgive the person for offenses b.
Arrest the images that prompt the thoughts that keep you tied c. Empty your life of things that generate
memories d. Fill your heart with the Word of God e.
Reject new relationships that are continuations of the original
2.
BREAKING FREE FROM BAD CHOICES
Jesus makes it clear that her life
was where it was because of her choices. He says " the one (the man) you
have now is not yours." Jesus is holding her accountable for her part in
her condition.
IMPACT POINT! Poor Choices Leave
The Woman With Feelings Of Embarrassment (I can't believe I did this again)
WHY DO WOMEN MAKE THE
CHOICES THEY MAKE?
IMPACT
POINT! Choices Are Either Driven By INTELLECT,
EMOTION Or SPIRITUAL Insight. Most Women Rarely Get Out Of Their Feelings Long
Enough To Think or To Hear From God
(Habit 1 of
Being a Powerful Woman - Take Control of Your Emotiona)
Proverbs
25:28 (KJV). He that hath no rule over
his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.
When choices are made consequences follow. Based on the
consequences the choices either build self-esteem or destroy it.
There's no greater
bondage than the bondage of guilt felt as a consequence of the repercussions of
bad personal choices.Psalms 51:3 (KJV) For I acknowledge my transgressions: and my sin is ever before me.
David let's us into
his psychological prison when he says:.. “my sin is always on my mind."
WHAT
HAPPENS TO THE PERSON WHEN THE MIND IS CLOGGED WITH THE WRECKAGE OF BAD
CHOICES?
a. Unconsciously you redefine your self-worth to that
standard. It moves from "I made a bad choice to I'm a bad
person".
b.
Subsequently you lower your standards. "I don't deserve anymore than
this."
c.
You settle for ill treatment because you feel you've earned it
WHAT
DRIVES YOUR CHOICES?
1. Values
learned from observation or instruction.
2. Vision
gained from an understanding of purpose and a preferred future.
3. Vanity stemming from a foolish and
perverted heart.
Romans
8:4-7 (KJV)…That the righteousness of the law might be fulfilled in us, who
walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit. 5 For they that are after the
flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the
things of the Spirit. 6 For to be carnally minded is death; but to be
spiritually minded is life and peace. 7 Because the carnal mind is enmity
against God:for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be.
IMPACT POINT! Choices Are Just The Fruit Indicating The Dominant Root, Which
Is Either Flesh Or Spirit
HOW TO GET DELIVERED
FROM BAD CHOICES a. Accept your humanity and forgive yourself.
b.
Look at the fruit of your current choices and determine what must change.
IMPACT POINT! The Fastest Way To
Move Pass A Failed Past Is To Chart A Successful Future.
c.
Never rush into decisions before prayer and counseling
d.
Consider the others your choices will impact
3.
GETTING FREE FROM MISTAKES
What Is A Mistake? It’s an error, blunder, misstep, oversight or an inaccuracy. In
practical terms a mistake is a detour from the ideal standard; It is something
less than what is required or proper
IMPACT POINT! Mistakes Are Ordained By God To Serve As A Mirror And
A Window, A Mirror To See Ourselves For How Imperfect We Really Are And A
Window To Look Through And See Our Need
For God
23 The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord: and he
delighteth in his way.
24
Though he fall, he shall not be utterly cast down: for the Lord upholdeth him with his hand.
IMPACT POINT! The Reason We Can Identify A
Mistake Is Because It Causes Pain.
Proverbs
17:10 (KJV). A reproof entereth more into a wise man than an hundred stripes
into a fool.
IMPACT POINT! If You Don't Make The Necessary
Adjustments To Pain To Avoid It You Are NO LONGER A VICTIM YOU ARE A VOLUNTEER
WHY DO WE MAKE
REPETITIVE MISTAKES?
a. Living in a
fantasy rather than facing facts.
b. Refuse the wisdom of proven counselors.
c.
Not given to the pursuit of knowledge
MISTAKES leave the woman with self-doubt
and apprehension about independent thinking
HOW
TO RECOVER FROM MISTAKES
PSALM
51:1-13. Have mercy upon me, O God,
according to thy lovingkindness: according unto the multitude of thy tender
mercies blot out my transgressions.2 Wash me throughly from mine iniquity, and
cleanse me from my sin.3 For I
acknowledge my transgressions: and my sin is ever before me.4 Against
thee, thee only, have I sinned, and done this evil in thy sight: that thou
mightest be justified when thou speakest, and be clear when thou judgest.5
Behold, I was shapen in iniquity; and in sin did my mother conceive me.6
Behold, thou desirest truth in the inward parts: and in the hidden part thou
shalt make me to know wisdom.7 Purge me with hyssop, and I shall be clean: wash
me, and I shall be whiter than snow.8 Make me to hear joy and gladness; that
the bones which thou hast broken may rejoice.9 Hide thy face from my sins, and
blot out all mine iniquities.10 Create
in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me. 11 Cast me not away from thy presence; and
take not thy holy spirit from me.12 Restore
unto me the joy of thy salvation; and uphold me with thy free spirit.13
Then will I teach transgressors thy
ways; and sinners shall be converted unto thee.
David screwed up big time and it is
from his mistakes that he teaches us how to bounce back from mistakes. He
committed adultery with one of his soldiers’ wife, he conceived a child by that
affair and
Ultimately, had his own soldier
assassinated.
DAVIDS’
PROCESS: ACKNOWLEDGE IT
The first thing that David teaches
us is to own up to it. Don’t buy in to the Ostrich philosophy of sticking your
head in the sand and hoping it goes away. You will never change what you do not
confront. David says:
PSALM
51:3
3
For I acknowledge my transgressions:
and my sin is ever before me.
One of the most self-defeating
forces in a person’s life is within the person himself; it’s the EGO. The ego
is a person’s sense of self, a person’s opinion of himself and a person’s ideal
view of who they think they are. The ego
makes us uncomfortable with not getting it right or missing an intended mark of
excellence from time to time.
IMPACT POINT! The Ego Convinces Us To Deny Our Mistakes As Opposed To
Acknowledging And Changing.
GET YOUR HEART RIGHT
David also teaches us that we have
to go inside of ourselves to produce sustainable change. You can’t get the
outside right until you get the inside corrected.
PSALM
51: 10
Create in me a clean heart, O God;
and renew a right spirit within me
David prays for a clean heart and a
right spirit. David came to the conclusion that something needed to be adjusted
inside of him. David didn’t make excuses or cast blame he faced himself and was
honest about the fact that he wasn’t right on the inside.
IMPACT POINT! It Is Useless To Attempt To Change A Failing Behavior Without
Concurrently Creating A New Mindset And Heart
ROMANS
12:1-2
12 I beseech you therefore,
brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living
sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.2 And be
not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your
mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of
God.
RUN
INTO THE PRESENCE OF GOD
David goes on to show us that we
must run into the presence of God when we’ve messed up.
PSALM
51:11
11
Cast me not away from thy presence; and
take not thy holy spirit from me.
David realizes that he can only
recover as he resides in the presence of God. The trick of the enemy is to
coach us into running away from God’s presence when we mess up. We
allow shame and guilt to drive us away from God when we need Him most.
IMPACT POINT! As We Dwell In The Presence Of God We Are Transformed By His
Glory
SNAP
OUT OF YOUR DEPRESSION
The next thing David shows us is
the importance of shutting down your pity-party over the mistake.
PSALM
51:12
12.
Restore unto me the joy of thy salvation; and uphold me with thy free spirit
When he says restore the joy he’s
crying out for help to snap out of the depression and melancholy disposition
that accompanied his mistake.
Mistakes
Should Create A Sense Of Sorrow; But, That Sorrow Should Bring Us To A Path Of
Change. The Only Way To Change Is To Get Up And Out Of Your Pit Of Dejection
NEHEMIAH
8:10
10 Then he said unto them, Go your
way, eat the fat, and drink the sweet, and send portions unto them for whom
nothing is prepared: for this day is holy unto our Lord: neither be ye sorry; for the joy of the Lord is your strength.
USE
YOUR ERROR TO LEAD OTHERS
IN
THE RIGHT PATH
Finally David says: “as I recover
I’m going to use my experience to help others to avoid my path.”
PSALM
51:13
13
Then will I teach transgressors thy ways;
and sinners shall be converted unto thee.
IMPACT POINT! A Greater Travesty Besides Any Initial Error Is To Fail To Use
That Experience To Help Others
Jesus teaches Peter a very
important lesson regarding the responsibility of having received grace to
recover from a failure.
LUKE
22:31-32. 31 And
the Lord said, Simon, Simon, behold, Satan hath desired to have you, that he
may sift you as wheat: 32 But I have prayed for thee, that thy faith fail not: and when thou art converted, strengthen thy
brethren.
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