HOW TO RECOVER FROM A BAD RELATIONSHIP PART. 3

By: RC Blakes, Jr.

 HOW TO RECOVER FROM A BAD RELATIONSHIP Part 3

 "How To Repair Your Heart"

 The greatest tragedy of a bad relationship is often heart break. The danger of a broken heart is that seeds of dysfunction and self loathing can plant in the cracks of your heart.

 1. REMEMBER THAT GOD IS THE ONLY HEART HEALER

IMPACT POINT! The Natural Tendency Is To Seek Healing In A Person After A Bad Relationship Ends.

No one can heal the heart but it's maker. God feels your pain and he alone has the balm to restore your hearts health.

Psalms 34:18

18 The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.

The major aspect of recovery is to release the venom by talking about your truest feelings about it.

IMPACT POINT! Express Your Hurt And Pain To God.

When bouncing back from a bad relationship it is always unwise to articulate all of your feelings to people, because you don't know who you may trust. When you need to vent lock up with God and get it out.

Job 7:11
11 Therefore I will not refrain my mouth; I will speak in the anguish of my spirit; I will complain in the bitterness of my soul.

 2. REFOCUS ON YOUR VISION AND PERSONAL GOALS

A bad relationship always takes you off of the course of your destiny and purpose. When you come out you must recapture your vision and personal goals.

IMPACT POINT! There Is A Season When Its Necessary To Get Back To Doing You.

Proverbs 13:12

12 Hope deferred maketh the heart sick: but when the desire cometh, it is a tree of life.

IMPACT POINT! The Greatest Bridge Out Of Negativity Is Positive Momentum

3.   REFUSE TO GIVE THE OFFENDER THE POWER OVER YOUR CLOSURE

Too many people get caught in the quick sand of the need for closure. By this they mean they want an apology, sincere remorse and an expression of heart break on the part of the offender. THIS RARELY HAPPENS.

IMPACT POINT! This Is An Unrealistic Expectation Of People Who Often Don't Have The Character Components To Respond In Any Sincere Way. Closure Is Found In Rapid Forgiveness.

 Matthew 18:21

21 Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times?

Why does Jesus encourage limitless forgiveness? FORGIVENESS PROTECTS THE HEART. Forgiveness is not about letting the offender off of the hook, it's about keeping you off of the hook.

IMPACT POINT! Once You Allow Offense To Set Up In Your Heart The Only Closure Is For The Person To Apologize. This Gives The Offender Power Over Your Happiness And Future.

Acts 24:16

16 And herein do I exercise myself, to have always a conscience void of offence toward God, and toward men.

Don't live being offended. Condition your mind to find closure through forgiveness.

IMPACT POINT! As Long As You Have A Need For Them To Repent You'll Live In An Emotional Prison Of Which They Have The Key.

ILLUSTRATION: When a person almost drowns in water they don't stay in the water waiting for an apology. They simply separate themselves from the source of the anxiety with no apology needed. It's the nature of water to drown. Sometimes we are waiting on people to be who they are not.

4.   RESUME YOUR LIFE BY ESTEEMING YOURSELF

After David returned to Jerusalem with the Ark of the covenant, he had praised God so vigorously that he had danced out of his clothes. His wife and Saul’s daughter proceeded to belittle him. David's response is instructional.

2 Samuel 6:21

21 And David said unto Michal, It was before the Lord, which chose me before thy father, and before all his house, to appoint me ruler over the people of the Lord, over Israel: therefore will I play before the Lord.

David's response to her verbal abuse is more for himself than for her. He affirms who God made him and he affirms what he will do. He refuses to allow the seeds of a bad relationship alter

his self view or future ambitions.

   5. REDEFINE THE EXPERIENCE AS AN EXPENSIVE EDUCATION AS OPPOSED TO A WASTE OF YOUR LIFE

A major item to come to terms with is the time you invested in the relationship. How does one account for years given to something that dies not go the distance?

IMPACT POINT! You Account For It As A Life School Course.

Hebrews 5:8

8 Though he were a Son, yet learned he obedience by the things which he suffered;

Jesus learned obedience through his sufferings but all suffering is an education to those who pay attention.

IMPACT POINT!  If You Don't Learn The Lessons You Will Definitely Repeat The Course.